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    fun days in London

    BBQ day
     
    为了兑现我宣传了许久的烤肉,
    为了对得起伦敦难得的好天气,
    还有那些抛弃我去布拉格享乐的人们,我们要在伦敦玩的更开心。 
     
    我家的那小院子竟然装下了18个人,
    每人平均5磅钱--见过这么廉价的烤肉吗!!!
    多谢senwei等人的帮忙,和无可比拟的持家之道。
    还有,liwei竟然从纽约杀回来了,没人相信他是真的回来了,他就是来看女友的。。。
     
     

     
     

     
     

     
    之后大家纷纷离去去看欧洲杯赛。
    我拉上Maria去离家很近的一个公园走走。
      

     
    在公园里,有个小牌子上面写着很美的句子 “Life is eternal, love is immortal, and death is only a horizon; and horizon is nothing save our limit of sight” -- 草译过来“生命是不息的,爱情是不朽的,死亡像是天际的地平线,不过是视野的极限罢了”

     
    我们进门的时间是公园锁门的时间,
    所以不出所料的我们要爬墙出去。
    Maria 一看就是好孩子,从来没有上树翻墙过。费了点劲儿才算过去。
    我,常犯了。

     

    A Week off in London

     
    这一周走了好多好多路,
    这一周吃了好多甜食,
     
     

     

     

      my cute funny cousin, he is alway 12 years old!!! never stop laughing.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    A friday night out

     

     

     

     

     

    慢慢学习好好工作好好享乐。

    慢慢学习同时管理更多的事情。

    下周会很忙,人在退休前都是只会越来越忙,所以因为忙失去自己的生活,那就永远不会有自己的生活。

    还有那么多书想要读,还有那么多事想要做。

    所以还在学习怎样生活。

     

    聚会这种东西,我们常常以忙为借口,来掩盖懒,懒是因为已经没有了新鲜的感觉,对人and/or对事。

    其实不只是聚会,对大多事情我们都这样。

    所以下一回,问我们什么时候BBQ,我说忙,就等于说,如果我们有时间,还是作些更有意义的事吧。

    我的思维又跳跃了。

     

    i really had a nice day, hope you enjoyed your day as well, no matter you were in my BBQ or somewhere else.

     

    每一次你走

     
     
    去年,你走之后我哭了一个月。
     
    人一旦适应了某种生活,某种生活中的人(们),就很难承受离别。
     
    更何况那时候的我根本不知道自己以后是否还能再见到你。
     
    我渐渐适应了没有你在身边的生活。
     
    我快乐的生活,每天和你在网上联系,每天倒数着你回来看我的日子。
     
    偶尔,你抱怨我party不回来和你说话。
     
    偶尔,我抱怨聊天时你打盹。
     
    每天,你都扬言来伦敦第一件事就是烧掉我‘丑恶’的睡衣。
     
    每天,我都质问,你为什么总要把头剃的和‘劳改’一样。 (然后你说这样不用打发胶。)
     
    当我再见到你的时候,忽然有一丝生疏感,我不知道手应该放在那里,嘴应该说些什么。
     
    这一点不适,很快就没有了。你还是和以前一样。
     
    总是喜欢走很多的路。 尝试不同的餐馆。 追着动物们照相,知道一切奇怪动物的名字和特征。
     
    当我再次看你通过海关, 转身向我招手,我还是没有忍住眼泪。
      
    在你来之前,我和导师安排开会时间,导师说,‘XX号他走,之后你还要哭三天,之后咱们在开会。 ...  如果你们碰巧来到学校旁边,叫上来给我看看,我得帮你爸爸做质量检查。’ 我一直把这话当笑话给别人讲,结果还是被说中了。
      
     
     
    这次的我应该是比上一次更有信心能够再次见到你吧。
     
    但无论怎样,我也没有100%的把握。
     
    如你所说,时间这个问题,会让人害怕。
     
    如王菲唱,就像蝴蝶飞不过沧海,没有谁忍心责怪。
     
    这样的经历和状态, 不止我们。
     
    那些想太多的人,永远不会明白。 
     
    寻一个自己喜欢的人难,还是等一个人难。
     
    我有没有和你说过,自从认识你,我快乐了很多。
     
     

                     

     (感谢侯岳同学早年间的友情偷拍)
     
    (同志们,需要组织活动来逃避现实了,腾出时间准备BBQ吧。)
     
     

    一封陌生女人的来信

     
    dear,
     
    do you know how peaceful i am now. i am listening to very clean piano music, having a cup of tea next to me and writing to u. let me tell you what i did yesterday.
     
    i woke up with hungover this morning, checking your email as usual.
     
    i went back home around 2am last night. drunk. i couldnt find my key when i was in front of the door, no light at all in the room.i called luca. the onlything i remember is that he said 'Jesus, tina! not again, not twice in the same day...&*^%.' he and arianna were out, maria's phone was off. dont know if alex is in london or not. anissa, i dont have her number, so i wished myself goodluck and went to knock at the door and prepared go to find the house where luca is partying or call aris spend the night at his house. but i saw anissa's angel face behind the door! so now i can have my tea and write you on my little bed.
     
    we went to a place called social, 10.30pm, i went there with johnny couple of times. i drunk a kind of pear cider, and aris found it is damn disgusting. we danced together, or i should say we moved together with the music. aris has problem with dancing, and i have problem with singing, they thought i was drunk and forced me to sing happy birthday. we took silly pictures.
     
    we walked on the street of london,10.00pm, heading to the club  we planned to go, we arrived and found the queue is increadible long, we discussed and decided to go to an other one. aris said he knows one near great poland street, it turned out to be a bar club i have been to a couple of times.
     
    we met up in the heavy metal pub. 8.00pm, Fran, Theo and Felipo were there already and chatting with some other people, i though they were their friends' so i went to greet by check kiss, and it turns out the guy just a random guy in the pub. later we all agree on that he is interested in Theo. Theo ordered 7 songs from the machine, and we were getting late for the club. the club we wanted to go is free of entering charge before 10.00pm.
     
    i left home and met up with aris in the archway tube station. 7.30pm, we were going to meet others in a metal pub first and then the club. From the converstation with aris, i found out the club this time is not a latin dance one, so why the hell i changed to the skirt, with which you always want to make me turn in the field. i thought it would be a latin night, and there would be a lot of springs...
     
    I arrived home very early in the afternoon, 4.00pm, and knocked at the door, anissa opened it for me. i lost my key, so i have make sure i arrive home before everyone is gone. i still kept the last hope that my key might be at home, although i asked luca and maria to look for already, they all give me negative answers. i coulnd find it. i did lost it this time. Xiaowei called me, and going to make a bedge with my name and number on it, in case one day i lost myself. got the message of the plan for tonight. said where and when to meet up and donot lose anyting on the way. i didnt notice, my new set of key is not in my bag when i went out...
     
    i had lunch with colleagues in SOAS, 12.30pm, our favorate cafeteria in UCL is closed down. i was palying my coin wallet on my way to lunch and on my way back. my key is usually in side my coin wallet, but not after finished luch and arrived at the office. it disappeared! i went back to soas, tracked on the way. asked the reception, and office and people in the cafeteria. they are very nice people, they asked me if it is my house key, then they said they have a couple sleeping bags and if i have to sleep on the street maybe i can borrow one over the weekend... i still hold the hope i might found my key somewhere, but at the meantime. i begin to work on a new set of key. office one is read, and the homeone i have a spare key at home, my drawer key? i think i have to break my drawer, anyway it is not the first time. so that shouldnt be a problem.
     
    morning, 8.30, it was friday morning, before i open my eyes i turned on my computer and before i crawl out of the bed, read u email. then i know i will free friday night, because you will on your way to your parent's house when London night starts.      THUS, MY LUCKY DAY STARTED.
     
    qin qin
    XXX

    moment

    来记记我的月记。每次有点写作冲动,不是太激进就是太颓废,引用别人的东西倒是很好使。
     
    回想一下我充实的生活,我都干啥了? 每天两个skype,skype 比吃饭重要。周3学拉丁舞-搁浅了。 周四踢球-那真的是球踢我,不是我踢球。
     
    大英博物馆的兵马俑展,我终于还是拖到了最后一天才去,6点就起来去排队,但还是被拒之门外,700张same day tickets, 1000人在排队。回来和我爸抱怨,我爸说:那东西,假的,真的哪能这么运来运去。在日本展览一个激进分子上来就打碎了一个,就陪了3***** (具体数字忘了)了事了。 我说:爸,不带你这么安慰人的。。。
     
    和一个结婚狂朋友聊天,她一直给我描画电影中的唯美画面,
    Y: 人家拿着钻戒说单膝下跪跟你说 will u marry me?
    Y: 还有就是有个人站在那里说 now i pronounce u husband and wife...
    Q: 求婚、庆典我没什么兴趣,穿着婚纱周游世界还不错, ----但是现实吗?
    Y: 不是很现实唉,不过泥别穿长的,那种新潮迷你的很不错,还有可能
    Q: 我也是这么想的!白色的婚纱短裙! 就是我还得练着穿着白色的高跟鞋跑,这个有点难度。。。
    Y: 你可以去希腊海边举行婚礼!
    Q: 哈哈,找个大鼻子给证婚啊?
    ...
     
    以上纯属YY, 以上内容属于男士不宜,看了以后不要泛化到所有女生,大部分人不会有这么无理的念头的。
     
    但是
    希腊人的鼻子,真TM的大。
    荷兰人的个子,真TM的高。
     
    以后饭桌上有荷兰人,必然要穿高跟鞋,不然自带坂砖垫起来。
     
    我最近还做什么了? 想起来在加进来吧。 把facebook上的照片贴上来给不用facebook 的朋友看看。
     
     

    被球踢过以后, (每次必被我旁边的7号闷一脚)

     

     

    (from flatmates)

     

     

    (from colleagues)

     

     

    (她们好辣,但是显得我好白!!!)

     

     

    (我们家的猫,用外国人的话说,穿了袜套的,用中国人的话说,四蹄踏雪)

     

     

    happy! happy! happy!

     

     

    (我妈问:他怎么戳的这么用力啊?)

     

    大家都很high

     

     

      

      (my flatmates, 少了个意大利女孩)

     

     

    (这里面3个希腊的,实际的鼻子比照片里大多了!)

     

     

       

    最后这个最有争议的。 争议啥就不用说了吧。

    我好心的同事和我说,把facebook里面的tag拿掉吧,最好把照片都拿掉吧,你妈妈看见可不好。如果是kiss个男孩子没啥,但是女孩子,别人得怎么想啊。

    我妈看了以后和我说,这个怎么了,你又不是亲个男生。再说让个漂亮小姑娘亲,亲亲就亲亲了。

    总结:文化差异啊!!!

     

     

      (我和Xiao Jie 像吗?)

     

     

     o(>_<)o

     

    Xiao Jie 家

     

     

    (我家)

     

    (我屋)

     

    快乐双人照--全部是在我家厨房

    日版pose     欧版pose

       

      

     

     
    en fait, ce que je veux dire,  le même jour l'an dernier, j'ai rencontré une personne.
      

     

     

    'How one chinese feel?'

     
     
     
    A LETTER FROM AN ORDINARY CHINESE  (quote from internet)

    When we were seen as "Sick Men from East Asia", we were called The Peril.
    When we strived to get stronger, we are called The Threat.

    When we closed our doors to the world, you forced them open with drugs and guns.
    When we finally embraced Free Trade, you blame us for taking away your jobs.

    When we were falling apart, you marched in your troops and robbed us blind.
    When we put the broken pieces back together again, "Free Tibet" you screamed, it was an invasion!

    So, we tried Communism, you hated us for being Communists.
    Then we learned from Capitalism, you hated us for being Capitalists.

    When we had a billion people, you said "The planet is starving."
    So we tried to limit our population, you said it was Human Rights Abuse.

    When we were poor, you think we are dogs.
    When we loan you cash, you blame us for your debts.

    When we build our industries, you blame us for global warming.
    When we sell you goods you can afford, you blame us for dumping inferior products.

    When we buy oil, you called that exploitation and assisting genocide.
    When you fight for oil, you called that Liberation of Its People.

    When we were lost in chaos and rampage, you wanted Rules of Law for us.
    When we uphold our law and order against violence, you called that Violating Human Rights.

    When we were silent, you said we have No Free Speech.
    When we are NOW silent no more, you say we are merely "Brainwashed".

    "Why do you hate us so much?" We asked.
    "No" You answered, "We don't hate you."
    Truth is we really don't hate you either, but do you understand us?
    "Of course we do" You said, "We have BBC, CNN and AFPs."
    So we ask you now "What do you really know and want from us?"
    And "Why do you find it SO hard to accept us?"

     
     
    -------------------------------
     
    All the BBC reports about China are negative.  human mind is subjective, but as a media, being fair-minded is the basic moral principle.
     
    Criticizing is not bad, but selectively reporting is bad.
     
    BBC needs to be more professional. if a media can not be comprehensive, it equivalents to manipulating and lying.
     
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    Youtube 上面有一个关于西藏的短片,值得一看。 奥运年注定了不会平静。如果台湾西藏不借助这个时间行动一把,那反而到出乎常理了。 意见是个主观的,所以每个人都会有偏见。前几天给某人讲了个‘拉手半年,不敢亲亲’的爱情故事,引发了对中国的文化,思想灌输,以及中国媒体言论自由问题的一系列讨论,让我很是郁闷。 我是典型的中立立场,真理是在一定的条件下才成立的。非要说对错,pointless.
     
    我们都知道我们的国家在很多很多的地方都要努力改进。 powerapple 上某个帖子引用了“做正确的事&做事正确”, effective 和 efficent 的区别,要有正确的方向,在谈正确的方法。我们要一步一步的改进。有Reporters Without Borders类似组织不停的监督,想信有一天,中国媒体会做到和西方媒体一样的。是的,和西方媒体一样,但是并不是自由。绝对的自由是不存在的(托福听力一出现绝对字眼,那选项必错--新东方入门必备之常识)。 媒体是一种手段,宣传手段,手段是服务于其领导者的。为媒体的自由之争长期存在是因为媒体的绝对自由在现有机制下是无法实现的。(不要和我一个学交通的较真儿 什么是现有机制的定义) BBC 照样被manipulate,不同力量的冲突长期存在。需要承认的是,manipulate的程度(很)不同。
     
     
    there is the video on youtube, it's worth to have a look using proxy or whatever.
     
    When other media talk about the media freedom issue in china, youtube delete comments under this video, and manipulates the number of hit the rate. (to prevent this video hits the top page)
     
    the 'facts' we see are all filtered through media, and to different extent peronal emontion and bias has been added to the reports. again, there is nothing absolute, no absolute fair, no absolute free. the question is to what degree we can have.
     
    about the video, dont want to say who is right who is wrong. i myself havent done the homework of Tibet's history, so dont want to bark here. just quote some comments here.
     
    'most westerners are going to think chinese are brainwashed by chinese gov't.'
    'I see it as a result of many years of indoctrination of the Chinese people. '
    'i can only look at the coments here as a lack of understanding, based on a lack of free media. fact is that the chinese people are kept from a free media and therefore cant see the real disaster. '
     
     
    'you just wasting your time doing this. talking about history to americans? they cant not locate their own country on the map. dont expect them to respect other countries' history and culture... '
    'whenever ppl talk to me FREE TIBET...brabrabra..I always tell them, then all u europeans should leave us/ca/au/nz,coz these place are belong to natives, not ur cracker's!!!CAN U GO BACK TO EUROPE???if u cant do that, then shut up, and leave us along.'
    'as i grew up,i realised how grey this world is,so is politics.
    i wish we can all deal conflicting issues in the world with love and care...but maybe we will never be able to do that,we are pathetic human beings..
    maybe it's not a good way to justify the way we treat minority Chinese by saying,look,the europeans have done loads of terrible things,why just blame us!?'
     
     

    C'est tous les jours la Saint Valentin

     

    Gros Bisous

    Vous êtes loin
    Mais cela n'a pas d'importance

     

     

    Tous les jours,

     

     

    Vous avez dit que je suis toujours heureuse,

    Parce que je pense à toi tout le temps,

    Peu importe où je suis 

     

      

     

     

     

     

    Pour mon chou

     

     
     
    It always said that people are unlucky in their zodiacal year.  if you believe you are unlucky, luck will not knock your door. In my year of fate, i encounters a lot.
     
    I went to take two MBA electives in London Business School, although i was always the weakest one in the group.
    I had my very first job interview with Mckinsey, although i failed to enter the last round.
    ...
    I encountered many many things and ppl.
     
    and there is a very special one, although he is 3,110 miles (about 5,000 kilometers) away now.
     
    it all begins with a swiss bank presentation, doesnt it sophie?
     

     

     

     
     
    Hi girl,
    i am expecting an even tougher girl after this difficult time;
    i am expecting travel to far east, four of us, after your NY trip;
    i am expecting speak french with père et mère next time rather than make them speak english.

     

     

     
     
     
     
     
        
     

     
     
     
     
     
    Salut mon chou, 
    you feel weird that I am in Paris alone. So do I. But i am finding you every where.
     
     
    they are my special collection. I can not believe i can't find a YSL logal with full spelling anywhere in paris. i dont need Y.S.L. i just want a Yves. when i opened the gift box from La mère de Sophie, i counldn't believe my eyes, i think sophie 'manipulated' her mama for that.
     
     
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    then i dont feel i am alone anymore, it's a city for two.
      

     

     
    although we have different attitude in tons of issues, but i am the one always can make you happy, and you are the one always can make me smile.
     


     
     
    "you must go downstairs brush your teeth now, i wish i could be one of the teeth who is having your attention now." -- the message on comp after coming back from brushing my teeth.
     
    "Are you safe back home in this dangerous London ? Are you with a boy ? I'd say no but I'm too far to be sure.You better have good explanations or invent good ones tomorrow... " -- the email gotten on the day when stuck outside until 4am.
     
    "connecting the dots by looking backwards... ... In the end, it was good to do all of this because while Steve Jobs got billionnaire, I got Qianwennaire." -- review of Steve Jobs speach on Stanford 2005 Commencement address.
     
    "I want to be that Xmas tree next to you"
     
     
     



    I always turn to blog when i am low, so i try to aviod using it now, but it is one of the limited sources of being in touch with friends who are far. from here, i know more ppl begin to have fun on skiing field; more and more ppl are going to start the job; more and more and more ppl are going to get married.

    I am still struggling for my PhD, using my parents' money to survive in the cloudy city, and missing someone who is three thousand miles away.

    2007 is passing by, the pig year is not over yet, i still have to keep writing my story as everyone does. it is going to be challenging i aim to, as i have no choice.

     

                    

     

             

         

     

     

     

    幸福向我招招手?

    回Yajing 发出的幸福召唤~    托了这么长时间终于完成任务了。很久没见面了,这次回国估计也没有时间见,算是一个礼物吧。
     
    规则:
    A. 被点到的要在自己的博客里写下自己的答案,然后去掉一个你最不喜欢的问题再加上一个你的问题,仍然组成20个问题,传给其他8个人,列出8个需要回答问题的人的名字,还要通知对方——你被点名了,被点名者不得拒绝回答问题,完成游戏的人将会永远得到大家的祝福。
    B. 这8个人要在自己的博客里注明是从哪里接到的,并且再传给其他8个人,让游戏继续下去,不得回传。被点到名字的人将会得到大家的祝福,并且所有美好的愿望都会在不久的将来实现。 
     
    题目: 

    1. 你相信世上有天长地久的爱情吗?你相信有人会爱你一辈子吗? 
    相信,但是这是一小概率事件,能不能发生在个人身上不好说。更多的情况,是爱情变成亲情。父母会爱自己一辈子的。

    2. 你怎么知道自己喜欢一个人? 
    当真正喜欢一个人的时候,自己自然就知道了。

    3. 你做过的最美的梦是什么?
    想周游世界时周游世界,想回家时回家。 (写下来才看出来,其实就是‘跨’,说白了想干吗干吗。)

    4. 最近最郁闷的事? 
    时间严重不够用。(时间永远严重不够用)

    5. 你最希望从朋友(不包括爱人)那里得到的是什么? 
    朋友就是用来互相理解的,感情上互相理解的是闺密,事业上互相理解的是同僚,不同的朋友带来的东西不同,不同的东西同样的重要。

    6. 你最想去哪个地方?为什么?
    他身边。

    7. 推荐一家你认为好吃又实惠的美食店。
    这边有实惠的么?

    8. 如果你非常思念一个人,你该怎么办?

    告诉他/她。  

    9. 结婚典礼上,你想放什么音乐
    干净的钢琴曲吧。 

    10.遇到喜欢的人,你是勇敢表白还是默默关注?(老套了点~) 
    让他知道。

    11.说出点你名的人的3个优点(不可删除题) 
    她在我印象中就像一只小兔子。

    12. 你崇拜的人是谁?
    爸爸。(太没创意了)     

    13.如果人生可以重来,你最想改变的是什么?
    这题不是庸人自扰吗?非要说就是,早点学法语和西班牙语。(那时候四级都不保,做什么梦啊!)

    14.面对友情和爱情,你怎么选择?爱情和友情哪个更重要?
    如果需要选择的话,说明这个爱情或者友情有问题。   两个都重要。看什么样的友情,和怎样的爱情。

    15.你对你的近况满意吗?有什么需要改变?

    人永远都不满足。 出国不用签证!

    16.你现在最想拥有的什么? 
    一个可以随时旅行的工作。 (谁来给我出出主意?导游不算)

    17.你最讨厌的一件事是什么?
    讨厌的事情太多,而且都很讨厌。9点以前起床,收集数据...  

    19.到现在为止,除了父母和爱人(包括恋人),你最感激的人 
    太多了,一路走来,不管是自己喜欢还是不喜欢的人,都对自己有着影响。 

    20.如果你要去长途旅行,在路上你会做些什么? 
    作白日梦,不旅行的时候也作。

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    this blog game is so popular in Chinese MSN users. it should be popular for other users as well, but i havent seen any. translate the content, for someone, bear with my rough english.

    Rules:
    A: the one who has been called for this game writes down the anwers in his/her blog. one and only question can be change, if you want. then pass on this game to 8 ppl, inform them: you are calling for the game, and you can not reject. than god will bless the one. (sounds damn silly in English!)
    B:these 8 ppl have to answer the game in their blog and name another 8 each, pass on the game. can not call back to the one called you. the ones receive the game will be blessed by the god as well.

    Questions:

    1. Do you believe in forever? Do you believe that someone will love you forever? 
    I do, but the possiblity is quite low, like a comet hits the earth. More likely, love turns to the feeling of a family.   Parents will love us forever.

    2. How do you know you like a person? 
    When that time comes, you will feel it.

    3. What is your nicest dream you have ever had
    I can be wherever I want at anytime.

    4. What sucks most recently? 
    Time is far from enough.(Time never be enough)

    5. What you want most from your friends (not including BF, GF)? 
    'Friends' means we can understand each other, no matter professionally or emotionally. different friends bring differnt things, but same important.

    6. Where you want to be most? Why? 
    next to him. 

    7. recommend a restaurant has great value: cheap and delicious.
    Does any commodity or service in London have great value? if yes, please do let me know. 

    8. what you will do, when you miss someone very much?

    Let s/he know.

    9. what music you want have on your wedding?
    Piano solo, clear melody.

    10.When you meet the one you like, will you tell s/he or you will keep silent? 
    Let him know that he is sepcial for me. 

    11.name 3 merits of the person called you for this game(this question can not be chaned.) 
    She is like a little rabbit. (rabbit has more then 3 merits.) 

    12. who is your idol?
    Dad.(so not creative, but still)     

    13. what would you like to change, if you can live your life once again?
    This question is totally a waste of time.   learn French and Spanish earlier, if i have to say. (I even can not speak proper english now, how could i have the energy to learn other languages before. Time is so limited, how can we have time to regret.)

    14.Between love and friendship, which you will choose? which is more important to you?
    If have to face this choice, then either the friendship or the love is not a good one or maybe both. 
    both are important. it depends on what kind of friend and what kind of love.

    15.Are you satisfied with your life recently? Anything needs to be improved?

    Human never be satisfied.   visa hassle!

    16.what you want most now? 
    a job can let me travel as i wish. (can anyone give me some suggestion on it? Travel guide doesn't count)

    17.what do you hate most?
    Too many things, annoying is annoying, no difference between big or small: get up before 9, collecting data, ...  

    19. To whom you appreciate the most till now, except your parents and lover. 
    Too many. the ppl you meet in your life, no matter you hate them or like them, they all help you shape who you are

    20.what you will do when you are on the way of a long trap 
    Dreaming, as what i do every day. 

     

    点名! 这年头有人能踏下心来写这么多吗?

    白振,朱娜娜,Gao Xing,  李旸,女宋佳, 黄杉 ,张冬。 我这个写的都是面善的,n多想点的人都800年不见更新, 看见的来满足一下我的八卦心理,忙得话退朝安息吧。

    差点忘了,换第七题。 郁闷的时候,你都用什么方法改变心情。 change no.7 to: what will you do to help yourself change to a better mood, when you are very low. 

     

     

    Damn this life

     
    I often catch myself constantly wondering how you are,
    sitting alone with my mind set so far,
    reminiscing about your smile, voice and touch,
     
    damn this life...
    I'm missing you so much.
     
     
     
     
    When you feel alone,

    look at the spaces between your fingers,

    remember that in those spaces you can see my fingers locked with yours.

     

     

     

     

     

     
     
    When I'm not there... do you think of me?
    When you're sad and something's bothering you... do you wish I were there to help comfort you?
    When you've had a long hard day... do you smile knowing that soon you'll be seeing me, and everything will seem better, even it's just for a moment online?
    When you lay down at night... do you look back and cherish the memories you've made with me?
    And when you get up in the morning, does everything inside of you smile, knowing that this will be another day that we'll be together sometime in the future?
    Because that's how I think of you... 
    And that is what makes every single day of mine.
     
     
    You dont like this city.
    But,
    The city I live has an angel.
    The city I live has Cupid.

     

     
     
     
    情绪闹得差不多就得了,不要老没完没了地好不好? 放些白痴照片怀念一下我的幸福生活。
     
     
     

    Freedom Is Not Free. 转载 公民洗脑指南

    有一个广泛流传的笑话。一个成功男人,他有三个女朋友,但是不知道跟谁结婚好。于是他给每人5000块钱看她们怎么花。第一个女朋友5000块钱全部用于给自己买化妆品;第二个女朋友没有自己花,而是用这些钱给他买了衣服;第三个女朋友给他买了衣服,还把一部分钱存了起来,说是为两人将来投资。那么钻石男应该跟谁结婚呢?
      答案是他选择了胸部最大的那个。
      
      胸大才是硬道理,已经成了现代中国的一个评价美女的公认标准,用句学术术语叫做 Conventional Wisdom (有人翻译成"传统智慧")。但这里的问题在于,30年以前,甚至更以前,胸大并不是什么中国传统审美指标。比如大多数男人都喜欢林黛玉,但是并不怎么关心她的乳房。要说大小,中国男人本来其实更关心的是女人脚的大小。是什么改变了中国人的 conventional wisdom 呢?
      
      是电视广告。据说改革开放一开始,首先是外国内衣厂商发现中国女人胸部太小,因此市场太小。于是大做广告,宣传做女人"挺"好的,然后跟进的是丰胸和保健品厂商。在电视广告的教育下现在中国人终于掌握了西方发达国家的审美观。胸部不是不重要,但如果没有电视广告,绝对不会像现在这样重要。
      
      《Freakonomics》(中文版是《魔鬼经济学》)这本书记载了广告改变美国人 conventional wisdom 的故事。1920年代以前美国人从来不认为口臭是什么大不了的毛病,但广告改变了公众习俗。19世纪美国就有一种外科防腐剂,叫做利斯特防腐液(Listerine),改进以后也可以做地板清洗剂和治疗淋病,卖的一直不好。这种药真正成功是因为一个"我能忍受他的口臭么"的广告,说约会中的男女因为口臭而郁闷。这个广告改变了两件事情:1. 七年内,生产利斯特防腐液公司的收入从11.5 万美元上升到800 万美元;2. 美国人从此认为口臭比淋病还严重。
      
      一旦有了电视,广告的作用就从关键性变成了决定性。经济学家甚至认为因为电视广告的出现,传统经济学的供求关系和"看不见的手"理论已经失效,人们因为看了广告而买了很多对他本来没用的产品。不是需求产生消费,而是广告产生消费。
      
      本文不是为了研究广告,本文研究的是自由和民主。如果电视可以让你购买你本来不需要的东西,那么电视是否也可以让你投票给你本来不应该支持的政客呢?答案是不是能不能的问题,而是一个政客想要当选,只能也必须靠电视广告。美国选举实际上是广告大战,是金钱大战。
      
      说这番话的不是中国政府一年一度的《美国人权白皮书》,而是美国前副总统戈尔。戈尔去年整了个 《An inconvenient truth》鼓吹全球变暖,今年终于开始研究真正的大问题了,他出了一本书,叫做《The Assault on Reason》。这本书我刚刚开始看,感到戈尔正在从一个政客变成一个思想家。
      
      戈尔认为是电视改变了美国整个的政治游戏。传统上本来选民们主要通过报纸来了解政治,而现在则主要是电视。美国人现在平均每天用4小时35分钟时间看电视,比世界平均水平高90分钟。看电视和看报纸的区别是本质的:报纸更讲"理",而电视则可以用很多手段来左右人的思想,也就是洗脑。
      
      决定选举胜负的是电视广告,这句话绝非夸张。戈尔讲述了他自身的经历。1984年戈尔竞选参议院的时候他的对手是 Victor Ashe。民意测验显示戈尔的领先优势正在消失的时候他的竞选顾问仔细研究了双方的形势和广告情况,提出了一个关键建议:我们先把这个广告播放这么多"点 ",然后Ashe就会这么应对,然后我们再买这么多"点"来播放我们对他的应对广告的应对广告,那么3周之内你的支持率将提高8.5%。
      
      戈尔于是同意这么做了。结果是3周之后戈尔的支持率果然提高了8.5%,不多不少!电视广告不但是关键武器,而且是精确杀伤武器。
      
      很多人认为中国政府给公民洗脑,其实中国公民没有被政府洗脑,因为很多人根本不信政府说的。但美国的情况则是大多数公民对电视上的东西深信不疑,因为他们认为美国媒体是自由的,他们这些观众也是自由的,他们的思考是独立的。9/11以后2/3的美国人相信伊拉克跟9/11有关,一直到现在仍然有超过一半的人这么认为,这就是电视宣传的功劳。人民不信任政府其实是一种健康的思想状态,中国人民目前就是这种状态。而美国人民却乐于相信电视。
      
      政客和利益集团左右公民思想比电视丰胸广告要系统的多,其中运用了大量的心理学研究成果,我大致可以总结出三条洗脑技术:
      
      第一,讲感情,不要讲实情。一般老百姓对宏观经济数字,甚至是自身的微观经济数字都不感兴趣。要想改变一个人对事情的看法,晓之以理的效果绝对比不上动之以情。比如美国反恐战争,叫做 war on terror,反恐惧,而不是反恐怖主义,不是反恐怖主义分子。布什政府所利用的是普通人的恐惧心理。害怕,是最容易犯错误的一种感情。电视是最善于煽情的媒体。美国电视上充斥的新闻并不是什么今年经济增长多少,而是谁家小孩神秘失踪,是明星打官司。
      
      第二,谈道德,不要谈道理。中国精英集团,比如说北大经济学家,他们最常犯的一个错误是想用讲道理的办法给老百姓洗脑,动不动就说什么房价还不够高啊,什么物价没有显著上涨啊,喜欢摆数字。老百姓说你当谁比谁傻啊。美国利益集团就从来不摆什么数字,他们讲的是道德,比如说宗教。布什连任,教会功不可没。共和党特别善于占领道德制高点,比如说反堕胎,反同性恋。穷人听了很受用,心甘情愿地 living poor, voting rich。反过来在看中国精英集团就没有什么道德制高点来取悦老百姓。
      
      第三,靠电视,不要靠电脑。互联网普及了,很多人认为网上有网特,其实真正的洗脑靠互联网是效率最低的。大多数人就算上网也不讨论什么政治。所以台独最大的思想武器不是龙应台,而是张惠妹。比如几年前发现张惠妹是台独分子,结果她到大陆演出还是有一大帮粉丝支持,还差点跟愤青打起来。
      
      然而戈尔认为互联网是美国政治的救星,可以击败电视的洗脑。他认为互联网最大的优势是互动性,自己还搞了个电视台,Current TV,强调互动节目,想以此来拯救美国公民于洗脑。我认为根本不可能。互联网之所以现在没有被利益集团的政治广告所左右,根本原因是他们还把网络没放在眼里。
      
      2005年美国网络广告总收入是125亿美元,看上去挺多,但实际只占全部广告收入的5%,绝对大头是电视。现在买什么东西可以去亚马逊看看顾客评论,而且那些评论基本没有收到利益集团影响,但这只能说明利益集团还不屑于去影响。
      
      我对美国公众是否能摆脱电视的洗脑是悲观的。自由媒体,自由言论,你认为自己做出的必然是自由的思考,其实你错了。原因是存在自由的广告,自由的政客,和自由的竞选手段。只要电视竞选还存在,怎么限制竞选经费也没用。现在美国议员一年200多天跑竞选拉经费,还有多少时间为国家大事辩论呢?戈尔书里说,国会里的富人明显增多,尤其是那些自己就出得起买电视广告的钱的。
      
      普通公众应该怎么办?多看书少看电视?就为了自己那区区一票么?为了对选举结果产生亿分之一的影响?绝大多数人是不关心的,因此左右绝大多数人的思想是容易的,因此绝大多数人的思想都是有偏见的。
      
      我曾经写过一篇《一个美国经济学家眼中自作自受的投票民主》介绍一个美国经济学家的一本书《The Myth of the Rational Voter: Why Democracies Choose Bad Politics》,这本书说普通人在几个重大经济学问题上,跟经济学家的看法正好相反。结果我文章一贴出来就有人对这几个问题表示反对,这说明,普通人的看法的确跟经济学家相反。
      
      自由的普通人掌握投票权,普通人容易被自由的洗脑,利益集团有给人洗脑的自由。这就是自由的代价。套用一句美国政客洗脑的广告词,这叫 Freedom Is Not Free.

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    从苹果的帖子看到此文,但是原始出处未查明。 版权问题,不要找我。 

    两_年祭

    挂上电话,忽然发现,到今天,出来学习_整两年。 爸爸妈妈,我能感觉到你们为我高兴着、担心着。
    我一路上走的潇洒,是因为有你们的惦念。
     
     
    我已经不是那个什么事都喊爸爸妈妈的小妞妞了,
    不是那个每周二下午都忘记回家写作业背打屁股小妞妞了。
     
    大学时最幸福的时候是妈妈开车去学校看我,一起吃饭,每次妈妈都抱怨,怎么才见面就又要分开。
    在伦敦的日子,最幸福的事是听爸爸‘吹牛’、听妈妈盘问我每天的行踪。
     
    妈妈和爸爸说,妞妞的同学说妞妞该断奶了。
    爸爸一本正经的回答,咱们妞妞断奶了。
    听了以后笑死我了。
     
    她们是对的,其实我没有断奶,我感觉这一辈子也断不了了。
    今天拿起电话就哭得说不出话,我知道开始的时候吓坏了你们。
    我只是想告诉你们,哭泣不代表一定悲伤。
     
    我知道我很快能忘记不快乐,
    你们也知道我会处理问题。
    感谢这些日子的不顺利,
    让我知道自己的软弱,
    感谢这些心理上的锻炼,
    感谢小伊陪我承受这些不顺。
     
    越来越真切地感觉到人是活在希望之中。
    妈妈说所以我要照顾好自己,我要照顾好他们的希望。
     
    别再给我找人相亲了,
    我只想嫁爸爸这样的;
    我知道这不是天生的,
    是需要经过困难磨砺的;
    什么时候我也能像爸爸一样,
    那个时候我就能照顾好我该照顾的了。
     
    我不知道我以后会做什么,不知道我以后想做什么,
    我想要的是让你们快乐,自己才能快乐。
    我身体里流的是你们的血,
    不论我人在哪里,有一些东西是不会变的。
     
    爸爸妈妈,妞妞爱你们。

    Men wanted for hazardous journey. Safe return doubtful.

     

    My dream journey

     

     

     

     

     

     

      

    London <-> Beijing
     
     

     

      

     

    Who needs an in-flight movie, when we can make our own?

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

      

    Men wanted for hazardous journey.  Safe return doubtful. Honour and recognition in case of success.

       

     

     

    we are all good helmspeople

    we are all good steerers~ 
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
    boys, can you be lazier? :)
     
     

     

     

    ~Shitty weather, happy day~

     

    记我“充实”的2天

    四月底的一个周五
    07:30 起床
    08:30 到liverpool street找一传说在pizza hut旁边的考场。找了N圈也只有一pizza express。

    (打电话给李博求救, 一直不接。 后来‘质问’其为什么不听电话,老先生答曰:‘我为什么要接电话?昨天不是给你描述的很详细了么?找不到不赖我吧?’ 老大,就算你没有给我描述过,找不到也不赖你啊,不可能赖你啊,犯懒打电话问熟人算是个很正常的反应吧?   要赖只能赖我自己总是能偷懒就偷懒,赖我自己打电话求救也不挑挑人。我就整不明白了,这位同学到底是热心帮忙啊,还是公事公办啊?弄得我一会觉得感激地不成,一会又觉得世态炎凉。 -- 以上为complain, 我知道这位老大说的话只是玩笑,但是我还是得发泄。)

    13:15S赶过来和我吃中午饭,辛苦他老人家拉个箱子挤了一个小时地铁。不是有中午聊天re-charging一下,下午连考场都不想进。
    18-ish 在研究了一天小本们的长相,和作弊心理,下午散场后,去ULU见P和A。
    20-ish 回office上tfl打地图,出门赶party。
    04:30回到宿舍。

    四月底的一个周五之后的周六
    08:30起床。
    10:00到大英图书馆续书,学了会,椅子还没坐热。
    13:00 到ULU打工。(近1一个月来头一回,拿着我的GYM卡的姐们儿们,我容易么)
    an evening out....
    23:30为了补觉早早回到宿舍,感觉好像才7,8点钟。

     

    亲爱的,我不是不想出去和你喝茶,你以后喝茶的时候掉念一下已经挂掉的我就成了。

      

    snail

     

    Swiss again

    前一段又去了趟瑞士。在不记下来就记不下来了。
     
    再次看到SBB CFF FFS的列车,就好像看到伦敦地铁一样。
     
    这次上路我已经没有了以前旅行的兴奋。在路上很多时候连相机都懒得掏,对自己说最美好的风景在心里,相机是记录不下来的。路上被问的最多的问题:一个人旅行么? 这两年旅行的态度,生活的态度,不断的改变着。不变的是不断的庸人自扰。
     
    一年前的照片。布鲁塞尔。那时候每到一个地方都仔仔细细的研究travel book, 这次瑞士,走到哪算哪儿,根本懒想下一站去哪。

     

     
     
     
    由于开始几天,3点睡,7点起,朝9晚5上lecture,晚上出去玩的生活。导致我之后几天大脑一直处于混沌状态, 几乎记不起自己都去什么地方.
     
     
    某日和一新同僚约在湖边见面,其迟到,我和陌生人聊天打法时间,一小时同僚后终于出现,在一通terribly sorry 之后告我,他刚到码头的时候还在琢磨,不知道我还在不在,也不确定这么大的码头是否能找到我。结果大老远就认出我了,确切些说认出了我的buns.
    去年的巴黎。隆福寺掏的裤子,快成我的标志了。
     
     
      
    在去Rheinfall的列车上,走了几段车厢,只有一个小伙子把书包拿开问要不要坐。然后用他德国英语当一路临时导游。发现此人是一个标准的party animal. 听到waterfall的水声,告诉我觉得像club里面的音乐。
     
    在zurich的最后一天,碰见3个学酒店管理的中国哥们.碰到他们时,在游湖,3人在一起抱怨:看着Zurichsee这湖就想吐。因为这3位昨天骑了N个小时才从湖的那头骑到这头。瑞士的自行车都是高赛,座位太小,硌得难受,3位先生垫了卫生巾...但是还是不爽...  (这三位真是神人...   让我想起了齐齐同学,军训时战军姿,先是用Nike Max的气垫,结果更是不稳,然后就换上了卫生巾,告诉大家感觉还不错,但是是在被踩实了之前...)    Easter break 骑自行车游瑞士。what a good idea! 我怎么从来没想过起着自行车游英伦?我还没疯,肯定不会骑车游这个剥削我的国家,重点是我怎么想都没想过。
     
     
    快乐是自找的。不论是一个人还是一群人。
     

    迷糊

    在Max Rayne party时收到朋友的短信,要帮忙到首都机场接一英国老头。

    mihu16

    马上打电话联系齐齐,英文好不好不管,但是他办事还是比较靠铺的。
    结果他老人家回家上坟去了。

    mihu07

     
    然后打电话给威爷,办事靠不靠铺不管,但是能帮忙他肯定帮。
    结果竟然把电话打到蓝妹妹那里,被骂个半死,最后告我伤她心了。

    mihu04

    最有民族感的还是林爽同学,准备乔装学韩语的帮我接机。
    (结果会怎样。天知道。)

    mihu08

    就这么点小P事,结果这费尽,人走茶凉啊。。。

    结论:没事别玩远程遥控。
            千万别记错电话号码。(会死得很惨) 
     mihu01

    上课时间

    我爸的教育方式完全放任性,完全的不管不顾,任由我自生自灭。(还是我妈好,小时候帮我抄作业,开假假条)
    mihu09
     
    我以前也质疑,我是怎么长这么大的?! 现在反应过来,总是有人替我爸妈教育着我。 或多或少,从来没断过。
     
    刚刚又被上了一课。我是好学生,Notes 贴上来。老爸老妈看了放心死了。
     
    Hi Tina, i want 2 talk something serious.... it might sound boring 4 u but plzz listen......me carefully.
     
    Alchoahal is good for all of us. but only when we r happy, when we r celeberating, not when we r depresed or sad. Alchoahal is bad if we take it as requirement.
     
    u r student...... dont forget ur FOCUS plz. why r u in london. NOT for me? nOT FOR UR FRIENDS? FOR UR EDUCATION.....why ur dad is paying so muchhhhhh.... i have no rights 2 ask all these.... but u have right to think on this issue and analayse wht u r doing?
     
    See Tina i would have suggested the same thing to my sister.. if she would have ben in this situation. i may not suggest this to my GF or my wife because she may think that i am keeling her space or i am interferring in her persoanl life or am disturbing in her life style,but i will defanetly suggest to my sister... she will never complain me that i am enetering i her peroanl life. so u can imagine if i am still asking u te same thing which i could ask my sister.. the wht kind of place i have given u in my life? ( but mind it sweet heart.. u r not my sister ok.....).
     
    Tina, being a girl... alchoahal effects u in lot of ways.... ur memories, ur weight, ur brain, ur motherhood, ur sexual life, ur future, ur thinking capacity, ur mesuration cycle, ur monthly period and lots of other things...now u may say that how these white girls drink every day..... plz dont compare ur self with them.......... ( thats wht i can say 2 u..rest is ur wish).
     
    why u wanna change hostel... coz it is costing u much.. or u dont like food... or u dont have kitchen? do u know how 2 cook... u dont... then wht will u do with kitchen?????????? why u want a part time job? in past also u had some part time job.. but u hardly used 2 do them..... now u want 2 do them... why... coz u r worried about money... no... u worried about ur expenses which is going higher every day..... why it is higher..............
     
    Forget it... mail is getting too longer and boring.. Do wht ever u want 2 do.......... just tell me r u happy?????????????? when ever i do anything wrong then i console myelf, saying that i am doing 4 my self, i am happy.... r u ? and at this point of time u have no right to think like me... coz ur parents r paying..... just tell me.... will u parents be happy... wht r u doing today?
     
    Tina few months back i left drinking... coz u were my motivation and inspiration to do so.... i thought my drinking is creating trouble in our realtionship........ i talk nonsense..when i am drunk and i left it.......... i am still away from drink............ so dont say that if i can drink then why cant tina?.
     
    be focus in ur life.. why u r in london..... wht is ur aim..wht is ur aim? wht u want from here? being student dont forget ur future........
     
    Till the time i have breath i will keep on giving u fre suggestion........... dont do any thing in life for which u need 2 regert in future? Cheers !!!!!!!!!!!!
    (别告我你一字一字的看到这了?我已经睡死过去了...) 
     
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    亲爱的,今天你生日。 生日快乐。
    貌似最近很多人生日。例如:Jay, Johnny, David, ...
    貌似下个月也很多人生日。例如:兰兰, 靖靖, ...
    统统生日快乐。今年20,明天18。

    2007129188743

    Hasta la vista, baby.

     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
    抽烟治疗偏头疼,我是不是可以从此告别止痛药?
     
    Can I say bye to pain killer from now on?
     
                                   <photo from internet>
     我不是装酷的小屁孩,这么毁容的事,我不干。
     
    quote: if I can make each mistake only once, I will be in good shape.
    I wont care if I end up with full of battle scars, that means i have tried a lot of things in a short life. (but please, dont be made by the same mistake.)
     
     
    让未来到来,让过去过去。不然还能怎么样?别和自己过不去。
    Hasta la vista, yesterday.
    Bienvido sea el manana.
    enjoy the present. 才是王道。
    没时间为逝去的光阴惋惜,没时间揣测还没到来未知。
    I stop trying to shape my future. I just focus on and enjoy what I am doing and let them shape whatever I will be.
     
     
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    这几天伦敦的天怎么这蓝呢? 我不是崇洋媚外。但确实是比北京强那么一点点,有限的一点点。其他地方还是和北京没得比。我护短,我承认。 
     
    这天气,呆在office里,有负罪感。呆在城市里,有厌恶感。   所以,我成功的找了个机会尝鲜。
     
    教球的一直无比耐心,无奈我实在太笨。
    "Tina, you want be a successful business woman and beat men? where does the great business come out?"   我心里骂,我TM还不知道,问题是球杆不听我使唤啊?

    indexGuideGolf<photo from internet>

     

    假期结束了,所谓的。 爽过假期后,该爽学习了。

     

     

    I am addicted

    I am addicted
     
    I am addicted to mum's voice.
    I am addicted to dad's voice.
    I am addicted to asking silly qustions ~i am not called 20 question for nothing.
    I am addicted to confusing myself.
    I am addicted to day dreaming.
    I am addicted ...
    I am addicted ...
    I am addicted ...
     
     
    每次不爽了,就听妈妈在gtalk上的留言,包治百病~ (一般人儿我不告诉他)
    http://www.stickam.com/editMediaComment.do?method=load&mId=175051360
    Easter这段时间天气大好,不出去走动走动对不起老天爷,我闪了。
     
     
     
    ----------------------------吃吃喝喝的分割线----------------------------
     
     
     
    我对面那姐姐, Kao~ 谁娶了她幸福死,四川妹子,还用说么,无比聪明,不光是聪明,还有大智慧;烧菜好;身材好;张得漂亮;本人和比照片 X100.   我再继续说,有人又该说我bi-了。
     
     
     

    靠个岸,加个油

     
    quote: 你以为命运是往前的吗?其实它不过是往复。
              你别以为有人会回头是岸,Y只是来靠岸加个油而已。
     
    所以我不知疲倦地一再重复所犯的错误,不过是命运使然。I love this excuse. 谁说往复不是一种往前?
     
    活了这么大了还没有机会'回头是岸'一回,人生还真是够苍白。 所以我决定结束我惨淡的生活。开始靠岸加油。
     
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     八百年没摸过杆了,捅不进球,我那脸拉的那叫一个长~ 丢人。